On the short drive to my in-laws there is a small bakery. And this time they had a sign out for German donuts. I asked Thomas what those tasted like, which resulted in him turning into the parking lot for us to try them. A few minutes later, we arrived at my in-laws with a bag of apple fritters and German donuts, something that took my in-laws by surprise. They weren’t used to us arriving with food, especially not fried dough. I am proud to say that I have developed a much healthier relationship with food. A relationship that includes enjoying donuts on occasion. Here are 13 signs of a healthy relationship with food.

 

All foods fit into a healthy relationship with food, even donuts.

 

Good and Bad Food

We live in a society that equates food to being bad or good.  Over and over we onnect our self-worth to our food choices and body size. We are constantly bombarded with advertisements for fast food, 52-oz sodas for $1.50, and aisles of processed foods at the grocery store. But then on the flip side we’re told in order to be successful you have to be a certain size, avoid eating “bad foods”, or exercise and eat in a way that feels torturous. Too frequently the words “I’m being so bad, I shouldn’t eat this” are said. Or too many times our brain obsesses for hours after eating something. Not anymore. Which brings me to what I think a positive, healthy relationship with food looks like.

13 Signs of a Healthy Relationship with Food

This list is not exclusive and individuals with allergies will have to demonstrate different behaviors towards food. But it’s a start.

1. Eating the foods on your plate is enjoyable.

Your plate is full of flavors and textures that you enjoy and you don’t feel obligated to eat foods that you do not enjoy. What foods do you not enjoy eating that you eat because they are labeled as health food?

2. You don’t let diets and diet choices define who you are.

You’re more than “a vegan” or a “low-carb dieter”. There’s nothing wrong with choosing to eat certain foods but letting the diet define who you are can feel confusing at times. Associating who you are with how you eat can increase the guilt when those food choices are not available.

3. Food and diet choices don’t improve or decrease your self-worth.

Straying from your typical food choices doesn’t make you feel less about yourself or result in days of restriction.

4. Food choices takes some planning but it does not consume an abnormal amount of time or majority of your thoughts.

Your thoughts aren’t preoccupied with food if meal planning doesn’t happen.

5. A specific time on the clock does not dictate when you eat everyday.

Eating meals and snacks at different times than your normal times doesn’t give you anxiety or make you feel out of control. If you go to an early-dinner or a late-lunch, your thoughts are not consumed with the change.

6. You feel at-ease or can enjoy your time when someone else is in control of the food.

A party, a luncheon, restaurant meal, or going to friend’s house for dinner does not give you anxiety over the food choices.

7. Your internal cues of hunger and fullness prompt you to sit down and eat and tell you when you are done eating.

You feel connected and mindful to how your body feels when it is hungry and when it is full. This one can be challenging and take some time to develop if you have been following diets for many years. But I feel it is one of the most rewarding aspects of having a healthy relationship with food.

8. Overeating doesn’t trigger negative behaviors or thoughts.

There are times when we eat more than our body needs nutritionally. And that is OK.

9. Eating foods that are nutritious is important to you because of the health benefits they provide and the energy it gives you.

You view eating nutritiously as a way of self-care and maintaining a healthy and happy quality of life.

10. You try new foods and experiment with flavors, textures, and foods of different cultures.

Trying new foods can help you enjoy food more. It also provides you with a variety of nutrients.

11. Food is viewed as fuel and nutrients for your body. And your body feels energetic after most meals. 

“Most” is in italics because a healthy relationship with food includes all foods. Most of the time our body is looking for energy so we want to focus on the foods that are the best sources of energy.

12. Your diet and food behaviors are not constantly changing. 

Research demonstrates that those who are constantly trying new diets actually have a harder time managing their weight.

13. Occasionally you take time to enjoy the foods that bring you pleasure, regardless of nutritional value.

When you enjoy certain foods, make sure you eat them!

What would you add?

There’s a lot of emotion that goes into eating and our food choices. I think having a healthy relationship with food doesn’t ignore this fact but it allows you to recognize your feelings, emotions, and thoughts that are associated with food. Working towards a healthy relationship can take time, patience, and grace.

 

What would you add to this list of signs that you have a healthy relationship with food?